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WHY DO I NEED SELF CARE?

WHY DO I NEED SELF CARE?

By Shenaaz Moos

Last month, I went to the hairdresser the day before Eid as a treat to myself. As I was paying, I said to the receptionist that I will be adding this to my self-care routine and she looked puzzled and asked “What’s that?” So I proceeded to explain that : Self-care is any activity that we do deliberately in order to take care of our mental, emotional, and physical health. (Psychcentral) She inspired me to post the self care principles listed below as I realised so many people out there may not what self-care is and why they need it . 

 

 

 

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  Shenaaz Moos   Jul 26, 2018   Authenticity, Consciousness, Family, SELF CARE, Whole Hearted Living   0 Comment Read More

FINDING YOUR WAY BACK TO YOUR TRUE SELF, YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF!

FINDING YOUR WAY BACK TO YOUR TRUE SELF, YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF!

by Shenaaz Moos

As a counsellor I see many clients who are lost, adrift in life and simply just living day to day in a monotonous loop. Joy, fun laughter and love seems to have left their daily landscape. They are so unhappy despite all the external successes they have achieved; the  wonderful spouse, the new car, the great job, the stunning house, but they still feel empty. WHY? The answer is simple and complex at the same time. Here is some of the steps to guide you to understand and make the changes needed to find your way back.

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  Shenaaz Moos   Jun 26, 2018   Authenticity, Consciousness, Self Esteem, True Self, Whole Hearted Living   2 Comments Read More

HOW TO LIVE A MORE CONSCIOUS LIFE!

When I posted my last blog on unconscious people, I immediately regretted using the term unconscious people because it felt like a judgement. There was nothing I could do but accept the as-is and move forward and remember the lesson learnt.

There are many ways to elevate one’s consciousness and I chosen five that have special significance to me. Why? Its important to note that the principles are part of your ongoing growth and development. This means gentleness and compassion is required. You cannot be at the end of a journey that has no end just endless adventure.

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  Shenaaz Moos   May 30, 2018   Consciousness, Emotionally Connecting   0 Comment Read More

Beware of the Unconscious People in your Life!

As I  have been focusing on raising my Consciousness and journeying through my life, I have noticed that not all people live by the same moral, ethical code and value system. This impacts how they live and the principles that govern their behaviour. However,  there are a few that unconscious people have in common. Unconscious people are easy to identify as they are the energy drainers in your life.

 

1. Unconscious people can’t understand why not keeping a promise is lying!

It’s better for your sanity to accept this and move on. You cannot change their level of consciousness but you can choose not to sink to their level. Trying to make them see this is a pointless endeavour that will drain your energy and dim your light.

 

2. Unconscious People will never apologise even when they are in the wrong.

If you are waiting for someone who who hurt you to realise this and make amends, the wait will be an eternity. They can only see things from their perspective and from their  point of view, they did nothing wrong. So for your own emotional and mental health, just let it go.

This does not make it right and it’s not easy to do but a key component in your rising as a conscious person.

3. Unconscious people fixate on your flaws and mistakes and are unable to see their own.

This means that they are always harping on about your behaviours and actions. As a result, this distracts them from looking at and focusing on their own. It can a be very effective way of avoiding looking inward at where they need to grow as a person. It’s up to you to realise this and not waste valuable energy on trying to get them to see their flaws and mistakes. This is your lesson and growth to take away from this experience!

4. Unconscious people choose to play the victim and martyr no matter what the situation, making you the bad guy and villain.

In any given situation, there are three roles : Victim/Martyr, Perpetrator & Rescuer (Drama Triangle). When it comes to the unconscious person, they perceive themself as the victim even when they are the one inflicting the pain (Perpetrator). Sometimes they even delude themselves to believe that they are the Rescuer and you owe them eternal gratitude. The rest of us shuffle between Perpetrator or Rescuer in their chaotic lives because we are good and kind people. To save yourself, just step out of the triangle and their drama and be none of those roles. Take your power back, preserve your Energy for your own life and it’s challenges!

 

5. Unconscious people exploit your kindness, generosity and loving heart to their own ends, leaving you hurt, empty and betrayed!

If you have a giving heart, do not assume that those around you have the same. Unconscious people will take and take and make endless promises to give when you are in need but never deliver. Most of the time, it’s their betrayal and lack of integrity that’s more hurtful and not their inability to be there for you when you need them.

 

The point of this blog post is to understand when people trigger you, where it may be coming from. This does mean that you are innocent and not a contributor to the situation, but taking ownership of your part, this is how you raise your Consciousness. At the end of the day, that is all each one of us can actually do. I am not all zen and 100% conscious all the time. I am however more open to identify when I am in Unconscious mode and this is when I use it as another way to grow myself.

Just remember :

You cannot change another person’s level of Consciousness, only your OWN!

  Shenaaz Moos   May 10, 2018   Uncategorized   1 Comment Read More

SMACKING IS ILLEGAL, ITS TIME TO BECOME A CONSCIOUS PARENT!

Conscious Parenting provides an alternative to smacking your child, which has now become illegal in South Africa.  Judge Raylene Keightley passed the ground-breaking ruling in the Gauteng High Court  in October 2017 encouraging parents to find alternative methods of discipline.

Conscious Parenting advocates gentle positive discipline that sees the child as an individual. According to Dr Shefali Tsabary (Author of The Conscious Parent) A Conscious Parent is not one who seeks to fix her child or seek to produce the perfect child. This is not about Perfection! A conscious parent understands that this journey has been undertaken and this child had been called forth to raise the parent itself, to show the parent where the parent has yet to grow. This is why we call our children into our lives. It may seem a daunting task to confront the self, but this is the portal to your authenticity.  (more…)

  Shenaaz Moos   Dec 31, 2017   Authenticity, Conscious Parenting, Family   0 Comment Read More

POTHOLES AND CRACKED IPHONES

You are probably wandering what potholes and cracked phone screens have in common. They are both imperfections and are very much in your face. Once I noticed one pothole in my road, the others just became visible and every time I left my house they taunted me. I was forced to endure a cracked phone for a month and was a true test of my evolution as a recovering perfectionist.

The general definition by WIKI is “Perfectionists strain compulsively and unceasingly toward unobtainable goals, and measure their self-worth by productivity and accomplishment. Pressuring oneself to achieve unrealistic goals inevitably sets the person up for disappointment. Perfectionists tend to be harsh critics of themselves when they fail to meet their standards.”

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  Shenaaz Moos   Oct 22, 2017   Conscious Parenting, Family, Perfectionism   0 Comment Read More

Subject Choice is Not Life Choice

My 15 year old daughter is in grade 9 and we attended her Subject Choice meeting the other night. As I looked around the hall, parents were holding their breathe in fear and children were anxiously scanning the room for comfort. All the parents were listening attentively to the guest speaker about the different academic streams open to specific subject choices.

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  Shenaaz Moos   Aug 26, 2017   Conscious Parenting, Emotionally Connecting   0 Comment Read More
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