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Micromanaging = Disconnection

 

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From The Awakened Family by Dr Shefali
Myth # 7 : Parents Need to Be in Control Pg 109

“The only control we have, as parents, involves our own feelings and reactions, together with the conditions we set in our home. Our problem is that we don’t know how to control ourselves or the conditions we create in our home, which steers us in the direction of controlling our children instead. (more…)

  Shenaaz Moos   Sep 03, 2016   Conscious Parenting   0 Comment Read More

Adult vs Child Frame of Reference

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I think that Dr Shefali’s wisdom in her new book The Awakened Family is so profound that I want I share every word with anyone who will listen, so this is the first meme I made and certainly not the last.

What struck me about this quote is that it reminds me of the ‘adult vs child frame of reference’ I often use when explaining why our children don’t calmly go along with our plans.

We as adults have our own frame of reference when we do or say things we perceive to be in the child’s best interest. However if we pause and remain present in the moment with our child, though this connection we will see it for the micromanaging and manipulation that it is, which is how our children receive this input.

  Shenaaz Moos   Aug 15, 2016   Conscious Parenting   0 Comment Read More

It’s My Body Mommy!

It’s My Body Mommy¬†

By Shenaaz Moos – Happy Confident Me Counselling & Workshops

 

'So you want me to put on a sweater because you feel cold? Are you thirsty too? Perhaps I should drink something.'

‘So you want me to put on a sweater because you feel cold? Are you thirsty too? Perhaps I should drink something.’

It’s my body mommy!

I’ve been wanting post this for the last few months about my 9 year old son’s issue with clothing, food, and just generally wanting to do his own thing. It’s difficult for a perfectionist or should I say recovering perfectionist mom to let go and let her children make their own choices especially when it comes to the health, hygiene and general well being. I’m learning slowly one day at a time to let the apron strings go, to loosen the umbilical cord and simply just let them be in their own space and to find their own way. (more…)

  Shenaaz Moos   Aug 10, 2016   Conscious Parenting   12 Comments Read More