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WHAT YOU MISSED ON MY SOCIAL MEDIA IN JANUARY 2019?

WHAT YOU MISSED ON MY SOCIAL MEDIA IN JANUARY 2019?

I realised that many people do not have time, patience or the energy to bother reading my daily inspirations, motivations and more that I post on FaceBook, Instagram or Linkedin. So I am posting almost all January’s content in a blog version. Let me know if you enjoyed it, found it useful or any other feedback. I may not continue if its just duplication or annoying, you decide.

 

1/1/2019

“Why do we want a happy ending? How about a happy existence? A happy process? We’re all in process constantly. _ Jennifer Aniston

Looking for a happy ending means always waiting and wanting. Mindfulness has taught me the beauty of the present moment. You need to do a lot of inner work to truly grasp that the happiness you seek lies in each moment as it is. I didn’t lose the weight I wanted in 2018, yet I am not unhappy. I did not run all the workshops as planned, yet I do not feel like a failure. I choose to be happy because I am alive, walking, talking and can see the beauty and wonder in nature. It’s enough to uplift any low spirits and transform any ordinary moment to an extraordinary one! All it requires is for you to choose happiness!

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  Shenaaz Moos   Sep 11, 2019   BLOGPOST, Conscious Living, Consciousness, HAPPINESS   0 Comment Read More

I am finally kicking off the boundary workshop for 2019!

It’s taken me 2 years to do this… I’m doing this because I don’t want you to take 2 years to decide whether you want to change your unhealthy boundaries into healthy ones.

At the end of the day, the way you communicate and negotiate for you want, and prioritize your needs and emotions above others, only then will you truly be content.

So join me, as we journey into the world of creating safe and healthy boundaries for you.

What you will take away:

  • What are personal boundaries and why have them?
  • What are emotional boundaries?
  • The different types of boundaries
  • How to define and set your own boundaries
  • How to let others know your boundaries
  • How to draw, cross or move beyond the line
  • Time for Q and A

Event details:

Date: Saturday, 31 August 2019

Time: 2pm to 5pm

Venue: 77 Rosmead Ave, Kenilworth

Book your seat now by clicking here.

I look forward to meeting you there.

Warmest regards,
Shenaaz Moos

  Shenaaz Moos   Aug 22, 2019   BLOGPOST, workshops   0 Comment Read More

Why women like to have their boundaries crossed regularly – especially when it comes to the mother in-law.

I started my counselling career in 2012 and up to this day, I still see men and women alike who have their personal and emotional boundaries crossed regularly.

I want to relate the story of one such person, Somaya (not her real name).

Somaya came to see me for marriage counselling as she had an ongoing conflict with her husband over his mother.

Her mother-in-law lived on their property but in a separate house and behaved like everything which belonged to her son was also hers. Somaya was so frustrated and angry because she was a strong independent businesswoman who was assertive and had strong boundaries with everyone else except her husband and mother-in-law.

It was negatively impacting her self-esteem and parenting. She loved her husband and didn’t want to disrespect his mother, but she struggled with herself when her mother-in-law would enter their home without permission and would scratch around their house.

I gently pointed out to Somaya that her physical boundary was being violated. With counselling, she started to lock the kitchen door to indicate where her space began, and her mother in law’s ended.

We also tackled the construction of emotional boundaries as Somaya was constantly told she was oversensitive or difficult. She slowly realised she had deep empathy and generosity that was being exploited by some family members. She took care to set and enforce healthier boundaries and now realises these were people’s opinions of her and not her truth.

We can all relate to Somaya in some way or the other. For some of us, we struggle with setting our boundaries in our workplaces, some with our family and then there are others with our friends.

So why is boundary violation a common issue? Why do we NOT enforce or uphold our boundaries?

Most times, we:

  1. FEAR rejection and ultimately, abandonment.
  2. FEAR of confrontation.
  3. GUILT.
It’s so important that you do not feel guilty if your boundaries are being violated because it’s not your fault. Nobody teaches you this stuff so of course, you don’t know it!

Awareness is the first step in establishing and enforcing your boundaries. That’s why I decided to host a workshop that discusses boundaries more in-depth. We will also be looking at how to enforce healthy boundaries without fear and guilt.

To know more about this workshop, click here

Establishing healthy boundaries and enforcing them builds self-worth and confidence.

I want to help you on this journey so that you can live a happier life.

Warmest regards,
Shenaaz Moos

  Shenaaz Moos   Aug 19, 2019   BLOGPOST, workshops   0 Comment Read More

THE POWER OF ACCEPTANCE

THE POWER OF ACCEPTANCE

By Shenaaz Moos

Why do we suffer? We refuse to accept and we refuse to submit. After attending a two day workshop called ‘Discover Yourself’ by Dr Sadath Khan this weekend, I understood why people (myself included) find certain people and situations challenging. You must aways come from a point of ‘how can I change, grow’ in order to improve the relationships around you. Sometimes you are kind, compassionate and caring to everyone except yourself or to someone who triggers you. Once you figure out that you are the trigger and not the person, you will be free.

What do I mean? The judgments, opinions and expectations of others is what triggers you, not any one thing or person on the outside. When you come from a place of nothing, you receive everything.  The journey to the true self requires acceptance. Acceptance in human psychology is a person’s assent to the reality of a situation, recognising a process or condition without attempting to change it or protest it. Here are some ways to achieve this.

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  Shenaaz Moos   Mar 14, 2019   ACCEPTANCE, Authenticity, BLOGPOST, Conscious Living, Consciousness, Perfectionism, True Self   0 Comment Read More

Facets of Ego

FACETS OF EGO
By Shenaaz Moos

I spent the last two years cocooned in a course with the very wise and conscious Dr Shefali Tsabary. During this time, so many light bulbs went on, so many wake up calls and nights of tears wrestling with my ‘false’ identity. On my journey to shedding these false layers, I penned a series of poems documenting the awakenings I experienced. These I realised were facets of my Ego. First it was Expectations, then Judgement, then the Need To Be Right, followed by the Need To Control and lastly Ego. This blog will expand on them.

  1. EXPECTATIONS

Expectations of your spouse, children and loved ones are counterproductive
Expectations make you enter a situation with an idea of how it should go
Expectations not met, make you throw a tantrum about how unfair life is
Expectations block the purity of the present moment as its unfolding
Expectations, the need to be right and judgment are from the same book
Begin to enter each moment with a clear mind and no expectations
This will allow you to truly connect with the As-Is of life
This is where the magic happens and acceptance of the other begins
This is where your child already is and is just waiting for you to get there
Heart to heart connection occurs on an authentic level
Here is where they will feel truly loved and you will be fulfilled

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  Shenaaz Moos   Jan 30, 2019   Authenticity, BLOGPOST, Conscious Living   0 Comment Read More