I realised that many people do not have time, patience or the energy to bother reading my daily inspirations, motivations and more that I post on FaceBook, Instagram or Linkedin. So I am posting almost all January’s content in a blog version. Let me know if you enjoyed it, found it useful or any other feedback. I may not continue if its just duplication or annoying, you decide.



“Why do we want a happy ending? How about a happy existence? A happy process? We’re all in process constantly. _ Jennifer Aniston

Looking for a happy ending means always waiting and wanting. Mindfulness has taught me the beauty of the present moment. You need to do a lot of inner work to truly grasp that the happiness you seek lies in each moment as it is. I didn’t lose the weight I wanted in 2018, yet I am not unhappy. I did not run all the workshops as planned, yet I do not feel like a failure. I choose to be happy because I am alive, walking, talking and can see the beauty and wonder in nature. It’s enough to uplift any low spirits and transform any ordinary moment to an extraordinary one! All it requires is for you to choose happiness!


“Living each moment as a way to realize our dreams, there is not difference between the end and the means. “ The Art Of Living by Thich Nhat Hanh

Living a life of distractions is a choice, it’s not accidental or someone else’s fault if we have not realised or achieved our dreams. Living consciously means we are in alignment with our truth and authentic self and every action leads us to the understanding that each  moment has its own gifts and happiness in it.  If your dream is about being wealthy, successful or famous and this is not in alignment with who you are, it will evade you. A dream is living your best life, having gratitude and living a life where being of service matters and making a difference in the lives of others is vital.


“A person can only meet you as deeply as they have met themselves.” – Luna & Sol

Yesterday I went to watch Bohemian Rhapsody and this line resonated “Come find me when you like yourself!” No one can meet your needs, make you feel loved, important, appreciated, valued, special (and the list is endless) until you know, like and accept yourself. Until then you are playing a role, living out a script given to you by someone else. To have a deep meaningful relationship with another person, you need to have one with yourself first. Most people avoid solitude, introspection and deep reflection because they are afraid to be alone with their thoughts and emotions. It’s absolutely terrifying I agree but absolutely necessary to achieve this wisdom nugget!




A few years ago I was a reactor of note, taking everything personally and felt rejected when people didn’t respond the way I wanted. I always blamed others at the height of my Unconsciousness. I am still surrounded by the same people but have very different relationships and experiences with them now. How? I began a journey to heal and parent my Inner Child through Conscious Parenting. It’s a chance to become more self aware, objectively step outside your own mind and see the truth of the situation. When you do this, you don’t need to respond or react to it just let the moment flow. Everyone is struggling with their own emotions and you will take it personal if you are not aware of this. Choosing to see it this way raises your level of consciousness. You win, no matter the outcome! Why? You gain Inner Peace!


“Successful people always have two things on their lips : 1. Silence 2. Smile”

The dictionary defines success as : ’the attainment of wealth, position, honors, or the like.’

I believe success should not be measured externally by society’s standards. Why? There will always be a bigger house, better car, fancier holiday, more prestigious job on an endless ladder if you follow their guide. So when will you be content? When you feel like a success? If you keep comparing yourself, you never will. Success to me is feeling at peace, living your best life in service and with gratitude. It has no monetary scale, just a deep sense of appreciation of your life as it is. This makes me smile often throughout my day, when I feel and see my blessings. Still working on the silence part as I love to talk. I understand that it means successful people do not talk about what they have, or discuss future plans. If you look at your life now, you are successful. Choose to see your blessings!



For me, telling the truth is easy and as natural as breathing. It’s something I value highly in others but find it a rare quality in many people. Telling lies is frowned upon in many religions and cultures, yet its the norm in todays society. Why? People live inauthentic lives and feel no remorse when they don’t tell the truth. People say it’s only a ‘white lie’, or they say nothing which is a ‘lie of omission’. A lie is a lie no matter how you try to dress it up. Always strive to speak the truth and your truth!


HAPPY PEOPLE                                                  UNHAPPY PEOPLE

Live simply. Are constantly worried about money.
Live in the present moment. Don’t make time for themselves.
Practice gratitude. Compare themselves to others.
Love what they do. Don’t love what they do.
Live with balance. Don’t listen to their bodies.

If you look at these two columns (image by Brian Tracy) and you had to tick off the items that apply to your life, which side would you have the most ticks? You are probably wondering how living a simple life in the present moment with gratitude and balance and doing what you love ( job/career ) can give you happiness. How? When you are not attached to other people’s opinions of you and your life, you are free to follow your dreams which may not lead to a fancy house or overseas travel but you get to do what you love. I can testify that doing what you love is the best way to be happy. So, go ahead and be HAPPY!

“The thing is, you have to really want to change”

Herein lies the dilemma of most people, they long for something different but do not want to change themselves or anything about their life. Instead they want the other person/s to make the change to help their shifting process. You are part of a Co-creative existence and everything you do or was done to you is linked. However when it comes to change, only you hold the key to unlock that door. Waiting for another is pointless, frustrating and exhausting! Conscious people know they need to take steps internally to ensure that change and transformation occurs on the external level.

Quote by with
No one changes unless they really want to.
Not if you beg them.
Not if you shame them.
If you use reason, emotion or tough love.
There is one thing that makes someone change: their own realisation that they need to do it.
And there’s only one time it will happen : when they decide they’re ready.

It’s so easy to see when someone else is caught in destructive thought and behaviour patterns, but it’s not so visible when it’s our own. So no matter how bad it is, they will not be aware if it or be unconscious of the need to change it. You are not helping by pointing it out, this will not wake them up to reality. Instead you could end up becoming estranged. All you can do is focus on your shortcomings and work on your self improvement.

Meme by@improve_emotional_wellbeing & @high.vibrational

Side effects of speaking your truth :
You heal your self
You inspire others
You become bomb af
You live authentically
You identify out your throat chakras
You attract the most beautiful souls
You vibrate higher and attract what you want
You create a ripple effect out into the universe

It takes integrity to speak the truth. The dictionary defines integrity as:
• adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty.
• the state of being whole, entire, or undiminished.
If you don’t speak your truth, you will not be whole, it takes a state of wholeness to live authentically. The best side effect of speaking your truth is that you heal yourself. Once you speak your truth, you vibrate a higher consciousness and frequency that inspires others. People who vibrate at your frequency will be drawn into your circle, they will turn inspire and motivate you to continue on this path of higher consciousness. Congratulations, you are living your best life!

“Open your Mind before you open your Mouth!”

When I was a child, I was described as outspoken (rude by traditional parenting rules). My father would always say ‘think before you speak’, I think he wanted me to speak truthfully, but carefully, with conviction but with empathy. It’s taken me decades to learn this and I now examine a statement when it’s a thought before uttering it out loud. If I find it of no benefit to the conversation or the person I am speaking to, or would hurt them, then I just dismiss it. I occasionally mess up, but I am still human, just more conscious and aware of my flaws. Meeting my inner child’s unmet meet to be heard and acknowledged first, allowed me to truly practice this skill. Everything begins with the Mind, so start strengthening yours!



This poem came to me after my meditation the other day. It wanted to be heard and today to be shared. Many older people complain about their adult children having no time for them. They feel they did everything for their kids and this is not what they deserve. Chances are they were traditional parents who didn’t value play and connection highly on their list of priorities. They saw to their child’s food, clothing and schooling – ie functional needs but not the things that make children blossom and flourish – ie emotional needs. The latter matter most to children. It’s one of the reasons I teach Conscious Parenting and from this year will teach parents how to play with their kids in my upcoming workshop, The Power Of Play. Please don’t waste precious time rushing your kids through life only focused on their academic success! Walk beside them in fun, in play and in difficulties!



I wrote this last year on 22/1/18:


‘The pathway to healing and growing yourself is to stop focusing on the ‘other’ person even if it’s your spouse, child, family member and so many more. This distracts you from your own journey to your True self, the work needed there to reach Self Acceptance, Self Love and ultimately Authenticity! Conserve your energy for the real battle, don’t waste it on other people.’

Since living this realization, I have truly come to understand the freedom of not being focused on anyone else. I am an empath, healer and fixer by nature and wasted so much time and energy trying to rescue those who didn’t want, need or appreciate it – so I stopped. It wasn’t easy, but absolutely necessary to live my best life!


Change from the inside out is the only kind that matters.

Change from the inside out is the only one that is sustainable.

Change from the inside out is aligned with your authentic self.

Change from the inside out is done for your growth.

Change from the inside out is when you will enter alignment.




  Shenaaz Moos   Sep 11, 2019   BLOGPOST, Conscious Living, Consciousness, HAPPINESS   0 Comment Read More



By Shenaaz Moos

Why do we suffer? We refuse to accept and we refuse to submit. After attending a two day workshop called ‘Discover Yourself’ by Dr Sadath Khan this weekend, I understood why people (myself included) find certain people and situations challenging. You must aways come from a point of ‘how can I change, grow’ in order to improve the relationships around you. Sometimes you are kind, compassionate and caring to everyone except yourself or to someone who triggers you. Once you figure out that you are the trigger and not the person, you will be free.

What do I mean? The judgments, opinions and expectations of others is what triggers you, not any one thing or person on the outside. When you come from a place of nothing, you receive everything.  The journey to the true self requires acceptance. Acceptance in human psychology is a person’s assent to the reality of a situation, recognising a process or condition without attempting to change it or protest it. Here are some ways to achieve this.


  Shenaaz Moos   Mar 14, 2019   ACCEPTANCE, Authenticity, BLOGPOST, Conscious Living, Consciousness, Perfectionism, True Self   0 Comment Read More




I finally had a chance on Saturday 15 December 2018 to do the talk on Authenticity that I had been wanting to do for the longest while. The strangest thing was that when I first started promoting it, there was a luke warm response. When I said I was thinking about doing another workshop on “How not to give a F**k” everyone went crazy. What people didn’t realise was that this is exactly what Authenticity was. Choosing to live your life the way you want and in a way that serves your desires, while being true to who you are. 

“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we are supposed to be and embracing who we actually are.”

—Brené Brown

It is a buzz word at the moment and everyone wants to be authentic, they say that they are but have not done the cleaning up of their inner landscape to get there. Their mind and thoughts are still plagued with what other people think of them, they are still trapped in the never ending cycle of people pleasing. They feel empty, unhappy, exhausted and miserable; this is not what authentic living feels like. 

On my journey to Authenticity these are the senses I discovered are vital:

  1. A Sense Of Self
  2. A Sense Of Worth & Value 
  3. A Sense Of Purpose 
  4. A Sense Of Boundaries 
  5. A Sense Of Humour

1. A Sense Of Self is knowing, liking, accepting and loving yourself.

This Sense is where it all begins, taking the journey inward to get to you know yourself again. You may be living a life that’s a lie, wearing your hair in a way that your husband likes, wearing clothes that your mother said flatter you and so much more. Deep down you hate both but can’t remember what you actually like. Why? From the earliest age  of compression in your childhood, you wanted to please those around you for love and acceptance. So you chose things that made their face light up even if it was not what you liked or wanted. You have been doing it for so long that you forgot your own likes and dislikes. When you reconnect with your inner child, you will remember the colours, food and places that filled your heart and soul with joy. Go here, stay here, live here! A Sense Of Worth & Value is valuing yourself, your time, your energy, your love and knowing what you are deserving of.

2. A Sense Of Worth & Value is valuing yourself, your time, your energy, your love and knowing what you are deserving of.

The second Sense can only exist once your sense of self is in place. Why? In order to value yourself, you have to like yourself. To you know your worth as a person means you see yourself as someone who matters, who has something unique to offer the world. Your money, appearance and education do not determine your worth, only you do! You only think it does because of the superficial world we live in and the conditioning of society reinforces this everyday by putting physical beauty on a pedestal. Social media also plays a role by people sharing all that they achieve (some exaggerated) making you feel inadequate when you compare yourself. STOP! You are enough as you are! Anything you want to change or add must be for the right reasons, that it’s for your own growth, your own spiritual alignment. Never in comparison and never in competition, only for completion! 

3. A Sense Of Purpose is living a life that has meaning and, living your passion while making a difference.

You can have all the money in the world, or have the highest paid job and still feel EMPTY. Why? You are living a life that may have no meaning, no purpose but to make money for money’s sake. This will lead you to buy more things you don’t need and desire more things in a never ending effort to fill the empty void inside yourself. Step off this ‘hamster wheel’ and choose a different path. Reconnecting with  your true self aligns you with your purpose. Have the courage to follow where it leads and you will be blessed with absolute joy and abundance. Not of the financial kind, but the spiritual one! What bliss! 

4. A Sense Of Boundaries is knowing what you will tolerate from others in terms of respect and keeping negative destructive people at a distance. 

If you could draw a magical circle around yourself and include all your favourite things and people, would you? This is a boundary and it is absolutely necessary and usually absent in many people’s lives. Outside the circle are the people and things that drain your energy, exploit you and abuse your emotional support. I know it’s not this simplistic, but I want you all to understand the purpose of a boundary. Others won’t automatically respect your rights, give you credit or keep their negativity away. You have to demand it, for your sanity! Authentic people do this without guilt or remorse as we know what we lose when we allow our boundaries to drop. Start drawing your circle today! 

5. A Sense Of Humour is what makes life fun, reminding you not to take yourself, others and life too seriously and most importantly to laugh often. 

Too many people take themselves so seriously that they get stuck when they make a mistake, forget something, don’t win at something or are not the best. When was the last time you truly laughed with abandon? When was the last time you laughed at yourself? If you answered : never, too long ago or I can’t remember; then you have been missing out on the joy that life has to offer. Having this Sense helps you in ways you cannot imagine and so many people think a sense of humour is childish or for children. This is so far from the truth, children are in their authentic state and that is why it’s so natural and easy for them. We should watch them and learn how to have fun and live in the moment! Fear, stress and anxiety are often managed better or beaten with a good sense of humour. Go and find yours! 

5 Senses of Authenticity

I hope when they left the workshop they gained more knowledge on how to stop people pleasing and not give a f**k! Here are some problems with people pleasing:
1) It’s impossible to please everyone.
2) You lose your sense of self .
3) Your worth is tied to pleasing others & fear rejection if you stop. 
4) You say “Yes” when you really mean “No” & feel pressured by others.
5) Your needs come last, because you put everyone’s needs first. 
6) You become resentful when your needs aren’t met, you deserve attention, love and respect too.

Problems with people pleasing

There are many ways to become authentic, I have shared my journey there with you. It does not mean it’s the path you will take to get there and no one can say when you will arrive. To be honest, there is no arriving, it has no time line but is a continuous journey. I cannot begin to describe the gifts you will receive along the way there, all I can say is that life will never be boring or monotonous. Living authentically frees up your day to have energy to do what you love with those you love. Your days are filled with joy and gratitude and you radiate light, love and positivity. This makes life bright, colourful and fun! 

  Shenaaz Moos   Dec 20, 2018   Authenticity, Consciousness, True Self, Whole Hearted Living   0 Comment Read More

The Power of Affirmations


By Shenaaz Moos

A few weeks ago I attended a seminar by Ebrahim Mongratie and it was wonderful to be on the receiving end of wisdom. I was even more excited to have met a Conscious, Awakened man who lived with Authenticity. He has also written two books, Thoughts of Perfection (which I already owned) and An Enlightened Path to Self-Discovery which I bought a copy of that day. He reminded me of the importance of Affirmations and how it can radiate a positive energy for your day. So I decided to add that to my future posts. 

The definition of an affirmation : a statement or proposition that is declared to be true, confirmation or ratification of the truth or validity of a prior judgment. This tell me that I do not need to wait for others to affirm me or identify my strengths, positive traits or potential, I need to do this for myself. This can be a very powerful way to transform your life through positive thinking.  I have been doing it for a few years but decided to write about it more on social media.


  Shenaaz Moos   Oct 30, 2018   Authenticity, Consciousness, Self Esteem   0 Comment Read More


by Shenaaz Moos

According to Wikipedia wisdom is “the quality of having experience, knowledge, and good judgement”. You often hear the words “listen to his words of wisdom”, but you never thought that you, yourself possessed words of wisdom. We are all conditioned to believe that we must seek knowledge, guidance and how to be happy from others, from outside ourselves. When you are on a spiritual path of self discovery, you will encounter many ways you have achieved wisdom. I have made of a note of five lessons I have learnt.



  Shenaaz Moos   Aug 29, 2018   Authenticity, Consciousness   0 Comment Read More



By Shenaaz Moos

Last month, I went to the hairdresser the day before Eid as a treat to myself. As I was paying, I said to the receptionist that I will be adding this to my self-care routine and she looked puzzled and asked “What’s that?” So I proceeded to explain that : Self-care is any activity that we do deliberately in order to take care of our mental, emotional, and physical health. (Psychcentral) She inspired me to post the self care principles listed below as I realised so many people out there may not what self-care is and why they need it . 





  Shenaaz Moos   Jul 26, 2018   Authenticity, Consciousness, Family, SELF CARE, Whole Hearted Living   0 Comment Read More



by Shenaaz Moos

As a counsellor I see many clients who are lost, adrift in life and simply just living day to day in a monotonous loop. Joy, fun laughter and love seems to have left their daily landscape. They are so unhappy despite all the external successes they have achieved; the  wonderful spouse, the new car, the great job, the stunning house, but they still feel empty. WHY? The answer is simple and complex at the same time. Here is some of the steps to guide you to understand and make the changes needed to find your way back.


  Shenaaz Moos   Jun 26, 2018   Authenticity, Consciousness, Self Esteem, True Self, Whole Hearted Living   2 Comments Read More


When I posted my last blog on unconscious people, I immediately regretted using the term unconscious people because it felt like a judgement. There was nothing I could do but accept the as-is and move forward and remember the lesson learnt.

There are many ways to elevate one’s consciousness and I chosen five that have special significance to me. Why? Its important to note that the principles are part of your ongoing growth and development. This means gentleness and compassion is required. You cannot be at the end of a journey that has no end just endless adventure.


  Shenaaz Moos   May 30, 2018   Consciousness, Emotionally Connecting   0 Comment Read More